Why I keep my sessions slow on purpose

People are sometimes surprised by how quiet my office can be. I don’t fill every pause. I don’t rush to a solution. If you’ve spent your week answering messages within minutes, that can feel strange at first. It’s also the point.

Fast is how we got here

Before I became a therapist, I worked at a busy startup and burned out at 29. I was very good at moving quickly, and very bad at noticing what I felt. Most of the people I see aren’t short of plans. They’ve tried plenty. What they’re short of is a place where nothing is being asked of them for fifty minutes.

What slowness makes possible

When we slow down, the first answer often isn’t the whole answer. You might say, “It’s just work,” and after a pause add, “I think I’m scared I’m not good at this.” That second sentence is usually where the useful conversation starts. It rarely shows up on a schedule.

Nothing has to be solved today.

Slow doesn’t mean aimless

We still set goals, and we check in on them together. I teach practical tools from CBT and ACT, and I’ll give you things to try between sessions. But I would rather we go three steps slowly and have them stick than cover ten and lose them all by Tuesday.

Silence is allowed

If I go quiet after you’ve said something, I’m not judging it or waiting for the right answer. I’m giving it room. You’re welcome to sit with it, say more, or tell me you’d rather move on. All of those are fine with me.

Everyone’s pace is different, and part of my job is finding yours. Some weeks you’ll want to talk the whole time, and that’s good too. If you’re curious what this feels like, the free call is an easy place to start. There’s no pressure to decide anything on the spot, and I mean that literally.